Someone told me once some wise words in a chat about personal development:
“Motivation itself is not enough. If you take an idiot and motivate him, now you’ll have a motivated idiot”.
This made me laugh and also think about the times when I’ve been pushing myself, “motivating” myself in all kinds of ways just to keep going in the wrong direction. Because my gut was telling me “stop”, but I kept acting like “a motivated idiot”.
Let me give you a clear example: let’s say you’re planning to go on a road trip from Washington DC to Miami, and instead of heading South you go very determined up North, towards Maine. It doesn’t make any sense. And when you’re GPS tells you, “wrong direction, change course”, if you don’t listen to it, you will keep heading in the wrong direction.
It’s exactly the same with your internal GPS, your intuition. It acts just like the guidance system on your car, except that it doesn’t talk to you so loudly and it also doesn’t give you such precise maps.
It usualy gives you enough info so you can take the next step. And then when you’ve reached it, it will give you info about the next one. And so on and so forth.
Unlike the car GPS who can layout the whole map with the turns and the twists on the road ahead up to your final destination, your internal GPS is more subtle and gives you insights for the next portion of your path.
And similarly, if you listen to it, it will tell you both when your’re heading in the right direction (link to week 4 month 1) but also when you’re acting bananas. When you’re actualy heading for peaches. You get my point.
So we’ve already covered the basics of how your intuition talks to you when going in the right direction, it’s equally important to know the “red flags”, so you know when it’s time to step back or change course.
Without further ado, let’s dive right in.
Step#1: How Your Soul Tells You Are Off Track – What Are Your Particular Signs When You Go Against Your Intuition
If you’ve done the exercise in this post where you’ve practiced discovering your “green light” signs, it will be quite easy to do this one too. Although maybe, just maybe…it might be not so enjoyable.
But, we need the dark to discern the light, so let’s be brave and figure this out, shall we?
For this exercise you’ll need to grab a pen and paper and block 5 to 10 minutes of private time. This means turn off your cell phone and make sure you’ll not be disturbed for the next 10 minutes.
Good. Now breath in deeply, exhale slowly and fully and think of 3 situations from your past experiences when you felt out of tune with life, alone, sad, misfit or angry. Or simply very tired or nervous, anxious without a reason or overreacting to whatever life brought to you.
You know that feeling, when you hurt your pinkie toe in the morning, spill coffee on your brand new white shirt, arrive late for an important meeting, your boss yells at you for no apparent reason and when you get home your spouse picks on because you forgot to pick up the dry cleaning.
It’s moments like these when you feel like life is punishing you on every corner and you keep getting into the wrong people, at the wrong time, in the wrong place.
I know this sounds like a place you never want to be in again, so you’d like to forget all about it. But, we need these experiences to help us figure out the signs that our intuition was giving us, but we chose to ignore them, or had no idea what it was trying to tell us.
Think of these experiences as the mud on which the beautiful lotus grows. Without the mud, there would be no lotus flower, right?
The exercise consists of remembering these three situations and then describing in writing the following:
- The specific situation, in brief. Focus on answering shortly to when? what? with whom? where?
- The sensations in your body. For this you might need to let yourself be immersed again in that situation, that’s why it’s good to allow yourself a few minutes. Scan your solar plexus, your tummy, your entire body, your feet, your shoulders, and write down specific sensations. They might be or not similar to: “my solar plexus feels cold and contracted”, “my feet are restless”, “I have a sad face”, “my back is curved” or “I have a heavy, bleah feeling in my whole body”. Each person is unique and has her own signals, make sure you identify yours.
- The emotions and feelings you were experiencing: tension, agitation, nervousness, sadness, anger, feeling overwhelmed and so on. These are the most common, you might experience different ones. There is no right or wrong here.
- The thoughts you had about yourself and the world. You might have had thoughts like: “I can’t do anything in this world”, “I’m all alone”, “The world is a living hell”, “All is going bad” and so on. It’s important to identify your view of the world while being out of tune with your intuition.
Hand writing connects you better with your subconscious mind and that is why it’s better to do this the old school way.
After you finish this exercise the end result will be a piece of paper that will contain the basic reference points, specific to You, when you are out of tune with your inner guidance system.
This piece of paper can and should be further developed and refined as you become more aware of your intuition.
The next exercise will help you do just this throughout your daily activities, without the need to block out 10-15 minutes.
Step#2: Observe Any Signs of Tension, Unease or Nervousness For a Week
For the next week, observe yourself whenever you have an unease, whether psychological or physical. Observe any tension that you might have in your body, the tone of your voice, the frown on your face throughout your day.
Be very mindful especially in the situations when you know you are most prone to get you in a bad mood. A meeting with a person you don’t like, a trafic jam, a delicate talk with your spouse or whatever.
If the situation allows you, take a moment to write down a few words about that feeling, without judging yourself. If the situation or your tension tends to escaladate it’s better if you take a few moments to just breath in and out deeply and slowly to help you recenter.
Otherwise you’ll get back on the hamster’s wheel of your reactions. Even if you do fall back, once you realise it, write it down and observe from a distance what happened and what you can do to prevent it in the future.
It will only take you a few seconds or one minute to do this. You might think this tiny exercise can’t do much for you, but trust me, after one week you’ll start seeing some benefits.
Observing without judging where you are, how you feel, brings you back to yourself regardless of how busy your life is. And it helps you not fall over and over again in the trap of your old habitual ways of getting angry, sad or upset in the blink of an eye.
After doing this second exercise for one week you can come back to the sheet of paper you wrote during the first exercise and add some new sensations, emotions or thoughts if you have them.
So that is it for now. I’ll be back in one week with an indepth post on how to develop your skills of dealing with negative moods or emotions on a daily basis, what their hidden message is and how to use that message to further strengthen your connection with your intuition.
Let me know how this was for you in the comments bellow, I would love to hear from you.
All my love,